Monday Q&A video 1. Thanksgiving

Dealing with Sensitive Topics During Thanksgiving

How to handle pregnancy related questions and situations that make you uncomfortable

Hi, I’m Sonia and I’m a fertility coach with Fertilligence.

Today we’re starting a new series which I am so excited about: Q&A Mondays!

In this series, we’re going to answer YOUR questions about all things fertility — everything
from what to eat to supplements that boost fertility to handling things when pregnancy DOESN’T happen so fast.

So be sure to post your questions in the comments, and I’ll answer as many as I can.

This first question is a BIG one, especially as we head into Thanksgiving and the holiday season.

So the question is: How do I handle EVERYONE asking me, “when are you going to have babies?” I know they’re just
being nice, but it’s a constant reminder that we’re STILL trying

So this is a great question and I am sure lots of you can empathize with it. So first of all, know that big emotions
around the holidays are normal and that you are not alone.

So here are my top 3 tips to deal with these situations:

• Choose your events wisely. Try not to feel obligated when it comes to every invitation you receive. Pick and
  choose the events that mean the most to you. If you sense that a gathering is going to make you feel
  uncomfortable, tell them you will try to make it next year. Now, with Covid, you have the perfect excuse to be
  very selective.
• Prepare and decide what you are willing to share and how. Go into each gathering with a plan and don’t be afraid
  to tell people you’d rather keep your fertility journey private. You may even want to rehearse your
  answers.Remember it’s your information, not every question asked requires an answer. Sometimes it’s as easy as
  answering “We really don’t know” and you change topics.
• Treat yourself when you get home. If you already know that attending a family get together is going to have you
  emotional and upset, plan how you’re going to cope afterwards ​before ​the event. It’s much easier to carryout
  self-care practices if you’ve put them into your schedule when you’re feeling okay.
  
  Some examples may include…
  • Prepare a self-care routine to carry out that night—like a long, relaxing bath with your favorite music
    in the background
  • Cuddle with your partner
  • Watch a nice movie
  • Practice some yoga and meditation with our amazing on-demand videos at Fertilligence

So this is my answer to today’s question. Now I’d love to hear back from you guys:how do you deal with uncomfortable
questions during the holiday season? When and if you try any of those tips, please share if you found them useful!

I’ll see you next Monday! Remember: write your questions in the comments below and I’ll answer as many as I can.

Have a wonderful week, bye!